Yes, this. It's especially frustrating when they're obviously trying to help and understand, and they think that "why" is a good way to get to that understanding. They just don't realize that it's not always "why" that's the best route, sometimes you just have to start at "how" or even "what" and go from there.
I have a similar problem with my partner — he often notices when I'm doing worse and then he always asks "what's wrong?" as in "why are you suddenly doing worse?" It's frustrating, because most of the time I don't have an answer: it just IS. It's a fact, now we deal with it.
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Yes, this. It's especially frustrating when they're obviously trying to help and understand, and they think that "why" is a good way to get to that understanding. They just don't realize that it's not always "why" that's the best route, sometimes you just have to start at "how" or even "what" and go from there.
I have a similar problem with my partner — he often notices when I'm doing worse and then he always asks "what's wrong?" as in "why are you suddenly doing worse?" It's frustrating, because most of the time I don't have an answer: it just IS. It's a fact, now we deal with it.