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Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 05:00 pm
Red and White background. On the left is an image of a blank guestbook form from a webpage. Text reads: "Featured Article, Guestbook" On the left is two large quotation marks and the text from from the featured article post.ALT

“Sign my guestbook!” This week’s Featured Article is all about Guestbooks, or “dreambooks”.

This was an element of older websites and blogs, where fans could leave feedback and comments, and operated as a message board. Although it wasn’t fannish in origin, people used it to interact with fandom and to promote their own fanworks and sites, as guestbooks predated online journals with comment sections.

They could be hard to navigate, and even harder to edit. As there was only one per website, it meant that messages could be hard to decipher if they weren’t specific.

Guestbooks were susceptible to spam, and the editing and censoring the owners of guestbooks practiced appears to be minimal, but for fans newly online, they offered the ability to read instantaneous feedback, try to message a celebrity, or was a place to make friends. Some guestbooks were also created as a memorial to a deceased fan.

Have you heard about them or remember commenting on one? Check out our Fanlore page to read more!

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Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 10:18 pm

Character: Squall Leonhart
Fandom: Final Fantasy VIII
Theme set: Gamma
Rating: G to Mature (various)
Warnings: Light drug use, mentions of torture or aftermath of torture, sexually implicit themes, trauma, mentions of bullying, memory loss and probably other things I forgot (I'll update this).

I currently have it solely on my Notion page right here, but I will upload it Dreamwidth and Tumblr later (I'm just so sleepy).

Ignore how I have it set up to have updated word counts, since I was running late, I don't have each and every entry the way I initially formatted it.

Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 11:12 pm

Dear Miss Manners: Several years ago, a divorced woman exactly my age moved in next door. I liked her very much and tried to become friends with her. Read more... )

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Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 09:21 pm
I just cleaned off the kitchen counter and put the last bowl/spatulas in the sink to soak (the dishwasher is already running, and all the cupcakes are cooked and 4 out of 5 frostings are made (I just finished the strawberry Swiss meringue buttercream) - tomorrow I will make the ganache and possibly also a whipped ganache (I've never done it with butter in it - does that make it more buttercream-ish?) just to change things up a bit.

Today, I baked the strawberry (doubled to make 80), apple cider (60), and funfetti (doubled to make 80) cupcakes - there could have been more funfetti, but not enough to fill a whole pan, so I didn't bother. I added cinnamon bits from King Arthur to the apple cider ones and dipped them in maple cinnamon sugar, which is a change, one that hopefully people will like.

I also discovered that the cupcake carriers I've had sitting in a box under a chair in my living room for a few months are the wrong size (they are for standard-sized cupcakes) so I only have 10 mini ones and I need 13, so I will use the some foil lasagna pans for my brother and sister and one of the kids - they'll get a few more cupcakes out of it, since the carriers hold 2 dozen but the 9 x 13" tray fits about 30. *hands* I'm just glad I still have a pack of them left to use; otherwise, I'd have been up a creek.

Tomorrow is Pipe-a-palooza 7: The Pipening! (yeah, it's kind of shocking to me I've been doing cupcakes for 7 years now - I started in 2019 - but I like it more than the chocolates [and it's also less time-consuming than the chocolates were] and I can't do ice creams anymore due to logistics, though they remain my all-time favorite of the homemade Christmas gifts I've done over the years.) Wish me luck! It's always the hardest part for me. Hopefully I will remember to take pictures to share afterwards.

Whoops, I started this entry an hour ago and got distracted by stuff like packing my overnight bag and refilling my water bottle etc. so I'm just gonna hit post now and work up the energy to go wash my hair.

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6-day plan, day 5 )

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Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 08:19 pm
my clip zip has a fucked up sd card reader. doestn read any sd cards at all. at least some of the dead pixels were fixed. welp. TIME TO MAXIMIZE THOSE 4 GIGS bc i love this thing now
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Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 05:55 pm
 
This is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time) on Tuesday, December 23, to midnight on Wednesday, December 24. (8pm Eastern Time).

Poll #34002 Daily Check-in
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 14

How are you doing?

I am OK.
8 (57.1%)

I am not OK, but don't need help right now.
6 (42.9%)

I could use some help.
0 (0.0%)

How many other humans live with you?

I am living single.
5 (35.7%)

One other person.
4 (28.6%)

More than one other person.
5 (35.7%)




Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
 
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Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 07:01 pm

⌈ Secret Post #6927 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 25 secrets from Secret Submission Post #989.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 07:00 pm

Sounds like the lads are packing up. I hope they haven't forgotten that they have some furniture to move.

In other news, UPS has changed the delivery date of what I assume to be a box of paperback Diviner's Bow from today (when it is not snowing) to tomorrow (when accumulations will be between 3 and 5 inches), because, yeah . . . I'm really over UPS dumping boxes of books into the snow and against the door, but I can't seem to instruct them to put it in the garage unless I become a Premium Member for $19.99.

In coon cat news, Rook has retired from the stairs to the basement. Tali is still on top of the bookcase in the bedroom, and Firefly -- is seeing ghosts. She seems perfectly comfortable with this, and I'm kinda jealous. I'd like to see comfortable ghosts. Just sayin'.

I should eat lunch, but I'm pretty much guaranteed to be interrupted, so I'll hold off until I can get the crew sorted.

Tali has an appointment at the vet in mid-February, which is in the middle of the January shot and the March physical.

I've been poking at the WIP, and put back in +/- 5,000 words that I had pulled earlier, now that I know that they (1) belong in this story and (2) where they go.

. . . and they didn't forget. I can go back this afternoon and get the desk back in order. And there was much rejoicing.
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And that's a wrap. I'll need to put up curtains again, but for the moment, we're good.
The stuffies are back where they belong. The computer is online. All I need to do is move my files and I can go back to work tomorrow morning. I can see the curtains are going to be a challenge, but Imma call today a victory.

All righty, then. The WIP now weighs in at +/-111,050. I may have already said that, but better said twice than not at all.

The cats have done a Thorough Inspection and pronounce the Safe Room Acceptable. Firefly seems to be in Transports re the new windows. Honestly -- she fell on her head and showed her belly to the window and purred so loud Rook went over to see What Was She Getting?

Coon Cat Happy Hour has happened, only a little early, and I have a glass of wine to hand, but it occurs to me that, absent breakfast, I may not have had anything to eat today. Better fix that before too much wine is had.

It's looking like I'm going to have to install miniblinds or...something in the new doors, because the new trim is of a -- waves hands -- different configuration than the old. We are now well into territory of which I wot not, but!

I have doors that the winter wind does not howl through, and UV coating and gee they're pretty. I'll figure something out. Later.

It's looking like our snow will be on the overnight, with 3-5 inches expected. South from here, they're looking for maybe 12 inches.

I? Have no place to be. My plans for the next couple days are to write, to read, and to bake a loaf of bread. Maybe two loaves of bread. Yes, I do know it's Christmas, and I have had some people Look at me and say, "But what will you do?" And what I'll do is what I do. I have mentioned before that Steve and I often did not "do" Christmas, because, in later years, we often had a book due at the end of the year, or in January, so we were working, with maybe a half-day or a slightly fancy meal. Depending, yanno, on how late we were.

On that note, I'm going to go find something to eat.

Everybody stay safe. Have a good evening. I'll see you tomorrow.


Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 03:05 pm
Happy Christmas Eve Eve, if you celebrate! I had big plans today to take advantage of the fact that there was no rain predicted for once (if you're unaware of the recent horrific weather in the PNW, check out some news to see the flood and wind damage we've experienced for weeks now) and go up to the clinic for a blood draw, since my primary care physician wants to see how my thyroid levels are doing now that I've been on the thyroid medication for a couple months. But I've been trapped here waiting for UPS to come to deliver my main chemo drug; I have to sign for it so not only can I not leave till they come, I can't even take a shower.

I'm extremely unhappy with UPS now for a lot of reasons, most of them still including the fact that I'm out $700+ because of the returned laptop that some asshat didn't bother to scan in. There are no options that will help me--everything requires that the tracking number be in the system, which is the very problem I have. The pickup person didn't put it in the system. And the company that it's supposed to be returned to won't do anything, either, so I'm just...screwed. And now I'm stuck here in my house waiting for my meds, which were supposed to be here this morning (they always wake me up early). Booo UPS.

I was feeling pretty low last time I posted, and I think I haven't really improved in terms of my mood. It's mostly the financial issues, but also the health stuff, and what next year will bring. I've been trying to find out about financial assistance for my chemo med that costs $23k a bottle (the one I'm waiting for) but it's looking like I won't qualify because of how much I messed up my taxes this year, or at least, I've been looking at the thresholds and it seems like because of what I screwed up on, I'll probably be just over the limit. I did sign up for the Medicare thing where they cap out of pockets/copays to $2k and allow you to spread it around over time, but I also signed up for that last year and the Part D drug insurance I had never did that. I basically blow through all my deductibles and copays right away, because when I get that first bottle of obscenely expensive Pomalyst pills, the $3k copay wipes out all the remaining balances. So I'm not sure what to expect in '26. And also I have a feeling, since that two thousand dollar cap was put in place under Joe's administration, they're going to do everything they can to get rid of it. America!

Sometimes I find myself feeling so bitter about all the lucky people I know who are able to get out of this country. There's nowhere for me to go, no place that would take me since I'm not rich (which would overcome my disability and age issues), and I just wish so much I could go somewhere else more sane. But I also think, good for them, get out while you can.

And while I was dealing with all the money stuff, it was like, I got a notice that my Dreamwidth account was expiring, and then my Editorial Freelancers Assn. dues were...um, due, and I was like, sure. Why not. Of course. But some really lovely person out there gave me six months of paid time, and I wish so much I knew who you were so I could properly thank you. It really came at such a perfect time, just struggling with that hopeless feeling, and reminding me that there are so many nice people out there. Thank you so much, friend! I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.

I know I should not be putting more stuff on my credit cards, but I have decided that I'm going to Escapade next year again. Fortunately it's not ridiculously early like this year, and hopefully I won't have to drive home from the airport in a blizzard, but while I'm still physically able, I want to at least see some of the folks who will be going and just be in Southern California again. There wasn't a lot for me to do fannishly this last time, but just being around folks is enough.

For a while I wasn't able to continue with my reading, which bummed me a bit since I had been excited about catching up on books, but I'm back to it at least for a while. I left off The Golem and the Jinni about 1/3 of the way in, so I restarted that, and I'm also hoping that even though I'm not doing Yuletide again this year, I can go through the archive this time and find some fun stuff to read (last year, I somehow missed reading Yuletide entirely). I'm not doing anything as usual on actual Christmas, except I'm going to try to bake the ancient anise cookie recipe that no one else likes that Dad and I used to make. It's very challenging even when you're healthy, and I found it very physically taxing last time I did (2 years ago), but I feel determined. [personal profile] mlyn helped me with the cutting out and baking part, but since it's the actual holiday, I figured I'd be doing it myself. It could be very interesting.

And then I need to schedule an appointment with the endodontist after the holiday, because my worst fear came true and I will have to have a root canal for the tooth I had a crown replaced on last year. She warned me it might be a possibility, but still...everything was going great till a few months ago. The oncologist has stopped the infusions of zometa because of the necrosis of the jaw risk, but NGL, that whole thing still scares the shit out of me! Though I managed to walk out of chemo a couple weeks ago without getting my new chemo schedule, so I don't even know how soon any of it can happen!

I hope those of you celebrating this holiday have a great time. Thanks for listening to me whine this year, I really hope things will be a bit brighter this year for all of us.
Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 10:53 pm
Day 22: 100 words of longfic, on a busy pre-Christmas day. How about you?

Tally:
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Day 21: [personal profile] china_shop, [personal profile] trobadora, [personal profile] badly_knitted, [personal profile] sylvanwitch, [personal profile] chestnut_pod, [personal profile] chanter1944, [personal profile] goddess47, [personal profile] sanguinity, [personal profile] cornerofmadness

Day 22: [personal profile] badly_knitted, [personal profile] trobadora, [personal profile] goddess47, [personal profile] sanguinity, [personal profile] cornerofmadness, [personal profile] chestnut_pod

Bonus farm news: I had no idea about the existence of Cucurbita melo var. flexuosus, a k a the cucumber melon! I totally want to try that. Also check out this very cool long-storage cucumber. Must try that as well.
Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 11:03 pm

Slightly to my surprise, earlier today I got a text from my GP saying approximately "yes your serum ferritin is now 'normal', but also, uh, by this we mean '15, with a reference range of 13-150, after six weeks of supplements', so... keep taking the supplements and we'll retest in six weeks!!!"

It is possible that the reason this actually got flagged at all was in fact that I've got a slightly elevated white cell count, and had I just had normal serum ferritin I'd have had to submit the "uhhh sooooo..." eConsult. Which I'd been gearing up to do, because the serum ferritin result showed up in the NHS app sooner than anything else!

Unfortunately, I had been working myself up to mentioning some Possible Additional Signs Of Concern in said eConsult (the various unimportant bleeding, like "there is usually old blood when I blow my nose BUT/AND I am very much using a steroid nasal spray every day") and I now have a solid excuse to keep putting it off for another six weeks, but hey. No longer officially anaemic! Pity about what's going to happen when I run out of supplementary iron, huh!

Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 05:30 pm
The Department of Shameless Self-Promotion announces that I will be telling a story as part of this year’s New Year’s Story Blowout put on by Artists Standing Strong Together (ASST).

ASST.New Year's Story Blowout 2024 - 2

Voices in the Glen has the 7:00 p.m. EST slot. The tellers will be Jane Dorfman, Joan Leotta, Lauren Martino, Tim Livengood, and me (Miriam Nadel). For free tickets (and a link to donate to ASST) see the ASST website
Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 04:46 pm
Oy, I forgot to post this last night.

For several years, I’ve posted a Chanukah song to Facebook every day of the holiday. Here is what I found for this year:

Night 1: We Are Lights. This is Cantor Avi Schwartz of Park Avenue Synagogue and Mira Davis, with the New York Children’s Chorus. The song was written by Stephen Schwartz, who wrote the songs for Wicked among other things.

Night 2: I am a big fan of Ari Lesser, a Chasidic rapper. I was amused by his piece, Hanukkah Diet.

Night 3: There are several Jewish a cappella groups who do Chanukah songs every year. The Maccabeats are one of the best known. This year’s selection features a K-pop Demon Hunters medley. There’s another version with video, but it was a bit AI-dominated so I chose the version with the lyrics.

Night 4: Nani Vazana is an amazing singer, who sings primarily in Ladino. Ocho Kandelikas, written by Flory Jagoda is probably the best known Ladino Chanukah song.

Night 5: We’re back to another a cappella group who also chose K-pop Demon Hunters for their Chanukah song this year. Here’s Six13 with Golden

Night 6: I had to include a Yiddish song. Unfortunately, I couldn’t figure out who the singer is from the Facebook reel. It’s from a facebook group called Yiddish music lovers.

Night 7: This took me to the late great Ofra Haza with a 1974 song about Hannah and her seven sons.

Night 8: The last of the a cappella groups this year was Y-Studs, who used the Jonas Brothers as their inspiration for A Very Jonas Hanukkah.

Bonus song: I couldn’t resist including this bit from Couplet Comedy. Here's a medley about what would happen if Chanukah had weirdly sexual songs like Christmas.
Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 01:27 pm
It's that time again: my reading roundup at the Aqueduct Press blog. I talk about some of the books I enjoyed reading this year, including titles by Charlie Jane Anders, John Wiswell, Nisi Shawl, Amal El-Mohtar, Maggie Nelson, and more.

We're currently awaiting a massive rainstorm in Southern California. Hoping my windows don't leak and the power stays on.
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Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 12:53 pm
I will probably see a couple more movies before the end of the year, and I’ll update the numbers accordingly, but I think otherwise my answers will pretty much stay the same.

NB I have reviews for most of the movies in my movies tag.

What TV shows did you watch a season of this year?
Creepshow, which wasn’t even good! It just had good guest stars! My trend of one full season of TV a year continues apace.

What TV shows did you DNF this year?
Severance. I got it out of the library, and I still didn’t want to finish it.
Legion. I watched one episode and then got distracted, but I’d like to try again. I do love Dan Stevens.

How many movies did you watch this year? Any trends in genre/viewing format/etc?
I had a Regal subscription for over half the year, so I had a HUGE uptick in new releases watched. Movie stats overall this year (not counting rewatches except where noted):

2025 movies: 30 (plus one that’s technically 2026)
Older movies: 34

Movies seen in the theater (new and old): 33
Movies seen otherwise: 32

I also rewatched two 2025 movies in the theater, three older movies in the theater, and six older movie at home, for a total of 38 total visits to the theater this year. That is definitely the most I have ever been to the theater in a year in my life, and I had a great time. I cancelled my Regal subscription because I thought I was burned out, but it’s been expired for five days and I already miss it, so I will probably resubscribe. I got way more use out of it than I did my Huly subscription last year and probably my Hulu and Netflix subscriptions combined (both of which I have since cancelled).

What were your movie trends for the year?
Most-watched actor: Jeffrey Combs once again, mostly due to rewatches at this point, but Doctor Mordrid, Dark House, and Onyx the Fortuitous and the Talisman of Souls were all new.

Most-watched genre: Horror by a mile, thriller a very distant second.

Most-watched country of origin: USA, but Australia was second with three, so that’s neat.

What are your top movies you watched this year?
In terms of the sheer amount of joy and delight I derived from it, it’s probably Red Sonja. This is by no means the best movie I saw this year, but apparently it was the movie I needed.

Some other fave first-time watches, from this year unless noted:
- Cuckoo (2024). Weird weird xenobio shit, casually queer, Dan Stevens chewing the scenery. What’s not to love.
- Companion. Smart, fun comedy/thriller(?). Just so tightly written, and everyone was great, most of all Sophie Thatcher.
- Clown in a Cornfield. Another movie way smarter than it had to be, and with so much heart.
- Sinners. Gorgeous.
- On Swift Horses. I’m not saying it’s good, I’m just saying Jacord Elordi was very pretty and sad and gay.
- The Long Walk. I didn't love it as much as the book, but it understood the assignment, and I respect that.
- Hell House LLC: Carmichael Manor (2023). For pure horror, this is the scariest movie I saw this year.
- Wake Up Dead Man. Despite the heavy themes, this was ultimately a good entertaining time, just like the previous ones. I want ten more. 🙏
- Silent Night Deadly Night. A late-year surprise. I went in knowing basically nothing, and I had such a good time. I NEED a sequel.
- Red Rooms (2023). French-Canadian movie about women obsessed with serial killers. Stylish, femslashy as hell, an extremely precise and careful movie.

Other movies you saw this year that deserve more love
- Strange Harvest, a microbudget cosmic horror true crime mockumentary. Yes.
- Him, which absolutely did not deserve to get panned so universally. It had style and ambition, which is way more than I can say for lots of movies I saw this year.
- Onyx the Fortuitous and the Talisman of Souls, a cheesy low-budget fantasy/horror movie with a lot more heart than it has any right to given how broad the comedy is.

Biggest disappointments
- Death of a Unicorn. >:( What a soulless, half-assed attempt at a horror comedy.
- The Conjuring 4. Even Patrick Wilson and Vera Farmiga couldn’t save this piece of dreck. Worse than 3, and that’s saying something.

Movies you finally got around to seeing for the first time
- Texas Chainsaw Massacre (1974). Omg Chelsea of Dead Meat wasn’t being ironic; Leatherface IS baby. ;__;
- The Shining (1980). Fuck off, Jack Nicholson.
- Candyman (1992). Maybe trying to do too many things at once, but I was pleasantly surprised by how central the question of race was, and the romance/corruption arc was good stuff.
- Crash (1996). We definitely emphasized a different word in the phrase “erotic thriller” than I expected going in.
- Brokeback Mountain (2005). I respect it for what it was and meant at the time, but I did not love it. Heath Ledger was incredible though.
- The Mist (2007). It was fine.

Movies that you had the most fun talking about, whether they were good or bad
Probably either The Ugly Stepsister or The Long Walk, both because they have clear themes about (gross generalization here) characters doing their best in crapsack dystopias and showing how messy that gets emotionally for the characters. Lots to chew on in both of them, although I would say The Ugly Stepsister goes harder (which is impressive considering the other movie is the one where people get brutally shot in the head on screen every few minutes). The logistics of filming The Long Walk were also super interesting.

Did you rewatch any old faves? If so, which one was you favourite?
I got to see Re-Animator in the theater. <3 On film, with a recorded video message from Jeffrey Combs beforehand which someone played on their phone and held up for the audience to see. <333

What's the oldest movie you watched?
A Bucket of Blood, a 1959 thriller/satire.

What's the newest movie you watched?
LOL technically We Bury the Dead, which doesn’t hit wide release until the beginning of January. I saw it at a mystery movie screening.

Did you watch any movies outside of your usual preferred genre(s)?
Red Sonja is sword and sorcery, which I don't really watch, but partly because it doesn’t really exist as a movie genre these days. That may explain why it only got one day of theatrical release and zero marketing, which is a crying shame.

I watched indie drama Die My Love for Jennifer Lawrence and regretted it. I watched indie feminist/fable 100 Nights of Hero and… didn’t regret it, I guess, but I did think it sucked a lot on multiple axes. Every time I venture out of my horror niche, I end up thinking I should just watch more horror. :\

Any movies you're excited to watch in 2025?
I am aware of and excited about a surprising number of movies coming out next year!
Scream 7
Ready or Not 2
Dune 3
Wuthering Heights
The Bride
Iron Lung
Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 02:50 pm
Some while ago I was taking R and her kids for green card photos, and as we left their apartment, her two middle children, the boys (about nine and twelve years old), started asking me urgent questions along these lines:

"Under here," (indicating the apartment building) "is there something?"

"Something like what?" I asked.

"Something ... like another house? Where people live?"

"Most buildings around here have basements," I said. "So there's probably a basement. A place for storing things and for machinery for the building. But no one lives in it." Then, thinking about how there are, in fact, basement apartments, I said, "Sometimes people do live in the basement. But if people are living there, then there are little windows here." (I pointed at the ground line of the apartment building.) "Your building doesn't have any, see? So no one lives down there."

"No, no," said the older one. "Not just under here. Under all this." This time he spread his arms to indicate the roads, the other apartment buildings.

Remembering the Spanish teacher I had in Medellín who confessed to believing in lizard people in her younger days (and still seemed to find the possibility credible), I said, "No. There's no one living under all this."

"But then what's this?" they both asked, taking me over to a mysterious circular trap-door-like thing in the snow:

mystery portal in situ
A circular trap door on the snow, near an apartment building.

mystery portal up close
a metal circle, about twice as large as a manhole cover, on the snowy ground

You can't tell from the photos--which I took some days after the fact; we were in a hurry that day--but it's quite large, maybe twice the diameter of a manhole cover, maybe a little larger even than that.

"I don't know what that's for," I confessed. "But I promise you, no one lives down there."

They looked at me half skeptically, half pityingly, and honestly, in the moment I definitely felt doubtful myself. Maybe there was a secret research center down there? A hidden playground? Handy micro nuclear missile silo? Storehouse of extortionate landlord gains? Might not the evil apartment management company, when it receives payment, convert it directly into gold bars and store it under there?

Who can honestly say?
Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 07:46 pm

I started introducing it this way in 2023:

The questions here sometimes feel random and sometimes aren't very relevant to me (how many one-night stands, bless; that feels like such a fossil of the height-of-LJ days when I first encountered this meme), but I do like it as a way to think a bit differently than I normally do about my life, and some things that had a big impact on me (like what a dog-hospital year it was for Gary) barely show up here. I do find myself at random points through the year noting things I do that I haven't done before, or wondering what my musical discovery might be, or whatever.

So here we go for 2025

1. What did you do in 2025 that you'd never done before?:
Wrote an extensive as the writer and basically project lead on a report at work -- never did this before, did it three times in a row this year. Met a person from the internet and ended up having sex with them the same day. (Sorry if this is tmi, there will be no more details about it.)

2. Did you keep your new year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?:
I didn't call it a resolution but when asked later about what I'd like to have this year that I lacked the previous one, I said

Another sexual and/or romantic partner? This feels impossible but so do the last four years' worth of things and they all happened!

Like three days after I wrote this I started talking to somoene on the social media site that's basically a kinky version of Facebook which, like regular Facebook, you can only access if you have an account and I was getting memes and events linked to by a friend until I got fed up and made an account. Six months later, I got a random message from someone who wrote a comment that I'd "liked" (as with Facebook, it tells you when people like your shit and then you can go look at their profile and all that) and in August I met him and it was fun to have a no-strings arrangement with a friend.

Will I make more for next year? I'm not sure, I think the coming year is more about keeping what I have stable: work, house, relationships, friendships, life....

+47 )

50. What are your plans for 2026?
Laat year I wrote

Try to help everyone survive it with as much comfort and joy as we can manage, especially in the U.S. but everywhere really.

And I don't think I can improve on that answer either.

In a lot of ways it's been a rough year: the quick and steep decline of human rights in the U.S. has been hard to watch and harder to be affected by so personally. Work has been so difficult. I've had such a miserable experience trying to get referred for top surgery -- in the process bringing up so much medical fatphobia that I haven't even blogged about the whole saga, I can barely even think about it without panic or tears. Even my escapist hobby of MLB has been reminding me that billionaires feel

But in other ways it has also been a good year: it was really nice to be able to provide a safe landing place for [personal profile] angelofthenorth and Mr Smith, it was nice to get through a November without anything (new) and terrible happening. Connections with the local queers have been deepened and I'm delighted that D and I are now on the small committee of people who've taken over from the two founders who have reasonably been able to step back and enjoy the thing they made as the ordinary attendees the rest of us have gotten to be the last two years.

Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 07:35 pm
I called them back at 7:00. Got through to someone helpful who has given me the location of a pharmacy that we're going to visit first thing tomorrow morning, who have been instructed to help us.

No idea why that didn't happen the first time!
Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025 02:19 pm


An all-new Bundle featuring the Old Gods of Appalachia Roleplaying Game, the tabletop game of eldritch horror from Monte Cook Games based on Steve Shell and Cam Collins' Old Gods of Appalachia anthology podcast.

Bundle of Holding: Old Gods of Appalachia