Men have never stared at my tits instead of meeting my eyes when talking to me, even when I was provocatively dressed and reasonably attractive--because I'm 5'2", and they're always staring DOWN so much that there's no simple "just focus a bit lower than her face;" focusing farther down than my eyes strains their necks. I've been ogled, but never surreptitiously during conversation.
I've been trying to sort out the concept of "female identity" in my head. I identify as a woman, and I've been trying to figure out why, and most of the answers I come up with are not possible for trans women. However, I believe the trans women I've met are women (and by extension, the trans women I haven't met are also women); I have no idea what they're using as markers for womanhood, and it occurs to me that I don't actually care, as long as they're not telling me I'm not very womanly because I don't wear makeup, stockings, or heels.
(Had a boyfriend who told me that I had some "masculine" traits like an interest in arguments, and being articulate and strong-willed about my passions. I wasn't with him very long.)
I decided I feel sad for the women who need the external markers to feel properly themselves; I don't have to fret over my female identity when I'm slobbing around the house in men's underwear and a ripped pair of sweatpants and a stained t-shirt three sizes too large.
I've known women who got their tubes tied, and yep, it took several visits over the course of a couple of years to convince doctors that they really should be allowed to do this. I have no trouble believing transitioning is an even bigger hassle, and that AFAB people get a lot more "you can't possibly know what you really want, little lady; just let the doctor prescribe you some antidepressents" than AMAB.
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I've been trying to sort out the concept of "female identity" in my head. I identify as a woman, and I've been trying to figure out why, and most of the answers I come up with are not possible for trans women. However, I believe the trans women I've met are women (and by extension, the trans women I haven't met are also women); I have no idea what they're using as markers for womanhood, and it occurs to me that I don't actually care, as long as they're not telling me I'm not very womanly because I don't wear makeup, stockings, or heels.
(Had a boyfriend who told me that I had some "masculine" traits like an interest in arguments, and being articulate and strong-willed about my passions. I wasn't with him very long.)
I decided I feel sad for the women who need the external markers to feel properly themselves; I don't have to fret over my female identity when I'm slobbing around the house in men's underwear and a ripped pair of sweatpants and a stained t-shirt three sizes too large.
I've known women who got their tubes tied, and yep, it took several visits over the course of a couple of years to convince doctors that they really should be allowed to do this. I have no trouble believing transitioning is an even bigger hassle, and that AFAB people get a lot more "you can't possibly know what you really want, little lady; just let the doctor prescribe you some antidepressents" than AMAB.