I do know a guy whose social anxiety (which is worse with women) makes him somewhat awkward. But.. that doesn't change what you're saying.
Truly, completely, socially awkward? Yah... they'd make everyone uncomfortable. And they're rarely actually *dangerous*.... just awkward.
Socially anxious that leads to reading as awkward? Again... sometimes it reads as a little creepy. A guy who's being too hesitant can comes off as "trying to get away with something" when it's really "trying to balance being interested with being respectful." And they often do not make friends easily at all. And if they find out they've made someone uncomfortable? They are usually pretty sorry about it.
But the worst predator I know? He's a gregarious rules lawyer of the worst kind. I don't know that I've heard all of these come out of his mouth in exactly this phrasing, but, this is the general mindset: "Well you said I couldn't do x, but you never said I couldn't do y." "You're really tense, why won't you let me give you a backrub? I'm just trying to help." "She didn't *tell* me to stop -- how was I supposed to know she was uncomfortable?" (Perhaps the fact that she was literally trying to get away from you, asshole.) "She said yes..." (After having said no multiple times & then giving up after being badgered & kept awake.) And my "favorite"? "She's just overreacting because she has a sexual abuse history."
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I do know a guy whose social anxiety (which is worse with women) makes him somewhat awkward. But.. that doesn't change what you're saying.
Truly, completely, socially awkward? Yah... they'd make everyone uncomfortable. And they're rarely actually *dangerous*.... just awkward.
Socially anxious that leads to reading as awkward? Again... sometimes it reads as a little creepy. A guy who's being too hesitant can comes off as "trying to get away with something" when it's really "trying to balance being interested with being respectful." And they often do not make friends easily at all. And if they find out they've made someone uncomfortable? They are usually pretty sorry about it.
But the worst predator I know? He's a gregarious rules lawyer of the worst kind. I don't know that I've heard all of these come out of his mouth in exactly this phrasing, but, this is the general mindset:
"Well you said I couldn't do x, but you never said I couldn't do y."
"You're really tense, why won't you let me give you a backrub? I'm just trying to help."
"She didn't *tell* me to stop -- how was I supposed to know she was uncomfortable?" (Perhaps the fact that she was literally trying to get away from you, asshole.)
"She said yes..." (After having said no multiple times & then giving up after being badgered & kept awake.)
And my "favorite"? "She's just overreacting because she has a sexual abuse history."